I remember the day my doctor gave up on me. “I don’t know what else to do for you, Jacqueline,” she said, “All I can do now is offer you Prozac.”
Ever feel broken???
I understood that she wanted to dose me up, send me home and stop my weekly trips to ER, endless blood tests, scans and everything else that hadn’t given her a textbook answer. I felt like an anomaly, but I knew I shouldn’t need meds to get through my day.
I wanted my life back. I wanted to feel normal.
I wanted to feel whole.
If you’re reading this you probably do too, so here’s the truth:
When you’re broken you’re open
Although it feels like your life is shutting down, it’s actually bursting wide open. When you feel like you’re losing everything, you can actually gain everything. Feeling broken is the beginning of your journey. The fork in the road when you can choose to reclaim you. My rebuild to wholeness took ten years but to help you get there faster, here’s my simple plan of what you can do now if you feel broken:
Here’s what to do now if you feel broken.
1. Recognise Your Breaking Point
Nobody breaks by accident. As humans we can withstand only so much pain or trauma so take a moment to acknowledge what act, situation or circumstance tipped you over the edge. Was it physical pain, emotional or mental trauma?
Make a note of specifically when and how you feel broken and if it relates to a specific area of your body.
This is your core belief about why you are broken.
“The word incurable, which is so frightening to so many people, really only means that the particular condition cannot be cured by “outer” methods and that we must GO WITHIN to effect the healing.” Louise Hay
Reflect on your core belief. Have you labelled yourself with a condition or disease? Do you have expectations around your treatment or a particular outcome for your health? Notice what comes up for you. Allow yourself to fully feel broken and then surrender to it. Just let it go, without judgement. This is where you are right now in your health and life and it’s ok.
Really, it’s O.K.
Accept yourself in this moment. Breathe out your attachment to the emotions that tell you you’re broken. Let it all go. Enjoy the expansiveness of no longer having to feel broken. Relinquish control.
3. Allow Yourself to Open
Savour the moment of total acceptance of where you are now.
In surrender your barriers fall away and you create space. When you create space you become teachable. New possibilities come into your life. Circumstances and people align with your new open energy.
When you’re not focussed on the problem you can entertain new ideas. Without your broken beliefs you can explore your potential to be well and create a life you love.
A life where you feel whole.
Does it require effort…Errr Yes…
But trust that there are ways of healing you haven’t discovered, different methods, new medicines, old medicines. There are ways of living and working that better sustain the life you desire. There are literally a million possibilities for you.
4. Evaluate Your Core Belief
In a state of openness you don’t need to know all the answers – what a relief! You can adopt the student’s mind and become alive to learning, growth and the kind of hope that comes with new possibility 🙂
So take a sec to re-evaluate your core belief. Ask yourself: Is it reaaaallllly true?
For a balanced answer, google your label, condition or belief. Find people who’ve experienced the same or similar and who have overcome it and/or transformed their lives as a result of it.
Honestly – they exist.
If you have any kind of fatigue, adrenal exhaustion, thyroid or endocrine disfunction, hypoglycaemia, aneamia, brain fog, infection issues, muscle pain, birth horrors or burnout, feel free to use me as your example!
Doing this exercise will prove that you are not alone (ok you may have to go beyond the first page of Google but it’s worth it!) You’ll discover that there’s more support than you realise and that rebuilding from even major disease conditions or trauma is possible.
Allow this to blow you away for a minute…because a mental shift creates a corresponding physical shift. Yep, as you open you mind to wholeness, you open your cells to healing.
(If shame and trauma are the reasons you feel broken, read this article)
5. Re-Frame “I Feel Broken”
Here’s one of my favourite questions. Ever.
I used it over and over in my rebuild back to health and wholeness.
How can I see this differently?
What you think and believe creates your reality, so it’s time to re-frame that core belief. You are literally going to change the way you think about how you feel broken, by shifting your perspective from negative to positive.
Here are some examples of how I re-framed my own broken beliefs:
My liver is screwed – became – My liver is overloaded and asking me to reduce the stress. I choose to listen and supporting my body.
I’m going to be diabetic soon – became – I am stabilising my blood sugar a little more each day.
I am so broken I feel like I’m dying – became – I am whole just as I am and I surrender and open to the healing available to me.
I can’t do this anymore – became – I just found someone else who overcame this and I’m investigating what she did.
Try this with your core belief. Use words that uplift and empower you. Write the new belief where you will see it every day and on a piece of paper that’s with you at all times. Remind yourself often that you are choosing to be whole.
Feeling Whole From Now On
Surrendering, staying open and re-framing are pretty cool ways to transform your life and it doesn’t matter if it’s your health, your love life or your career. It’s a question of releasing and rebuilding. It’s about inspired action and building a bigger belief in your potential to be well. It’s about love, acceptance and patience.
There is no miracle cure because you are the miracle. The answer is already there for you, just open your heart, mind and body to receive it. You are enough. You are always whole and a perfect work-in-progress.
Thanks for reading 🙂 I’m a survivor, a rebuilder and an eternal student who really appreciates your comments.